Kevin Kelly 的 103 条建议

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之前写过一篇 Kevin Kelly 的 68 条建议，这不今年老爷子 70 岁生日，又来推荐人生建议了😀。

About 99% of the time, the right time is right now.

大约 99%的时间里，最好的时间就是现在。
No one is as impressed with your possessions as you are.

没有人像你一样对你的财产印象深刻。
Dont ever work for someone you dont want to become.

永远不要为你不想成为的人工作。
Cultivate 12 people who love you, because they are worth more than 12 million people who like you.

培养 12 个爱你的人，他们的价值远远大于 1200 万喜欢你的人。
Dont keep making the same mistakes; try to make new mistakes.

不要犯同样的错误，试着犯新的错。
If you stop to listen to a musician or street performer for more than a minute, you owe them a dollar.

如果你停下来听一个音乐家或街头艺人表演超过一分钟，你就欠他们一美元。
Anything you say before the word “but” does not count.

你在说“但是”之前任何话都不算数。
When you forgive others, they may not notice, but you will heal. Forgiveness is not something we do for others; it is a gift to ourselves.

当你原谅某人，他们可能没有注意到，但是你将会治愈。原谅不是为别人做的事儿，这是自己给自己的礼物🎁。
Courtesy costs nothing. Lower the toilet seat after use. Let the people in the elevator exit before you enter. Return shopping carts to their designated areas. When you borrow something, return it better shape (filled up, cleaned) than when you got it.

礼貌是不需要花钱的。
Whenever there is an argument between two sides, find the third side.

双方有争执，找第三方。
Efficiency is highly overrated; Goofing off is highly underrated. Regularly scheduled sabbaths, sabbaticals, vacations, breaks, aimless walks and time off are essential for top performance of any kind. The best work ethic requires a good rest ethic.

效率被高估了，偷懒被低估了。（劳逸结合）
When you lead, your real job is to create more leaders, not more followers.

当你领导时，你的工作时创造更多的领导者，而不是更多的追随者。
Criticize in private, praise in public.

私下批评，公开表扬。
Life lessons will be presented to you in the order they are needed. Everything you need to master the lesson is within you. Once you have truly learned a lesson, you will be presented with the next one. If you are alive, that means you still have lessons to learn.

先活下来，再考虑生命的意义。
It is the duty of a student to get everything out of a teacher, and the duty of a teacher to get everything out of a student.

学生有义务向老师索取一切，老师有义务向学生传授一切。
If winning becomes too important in a game, change the rules to make it more fun. Changing rules can become the new game.

如果想要赢得重要的比赛，改变规则使它变得更有趣，改变规则使它变成新的游戏。
Ask funders for money, and they’ll give you advice; but ask for advice and they’ll give you money.

向资助者要钱，他们会给你建议；但向别人要建议，他们会给你钱。
Productivity is often a distraction. Don’t aim for better ways to get through your tasks as quickly as possible, rather aim for better tasks that you never want to stop doing.

生产力往往会让人分心。不要以更好的方式尽快完成你的任务为目标，而是以你永远不想停止做的更好的任务为目标。
Immediately pay what you owe to vendors, workers, contractors. They will go out of their way to work with you first next time.

立即向供应商、工人、承包商支付你所欠的款项。他们下次会不遗余力地先与你合作。
The biggest lie we tell ourselves is “I dont need to write this down because I will remember it.”

最大的谎言“我不需要写下它，我能记住。”（ps. 好记性不如烂笔头）
Your growth as a conscious being is measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations you are willing to have.

你作为一个有意识的人，个人成长是由你愿意进行的不舒服的对话的数量来衡量的。
Speak confidently as if you are right, but listen carefully as if you are wrong.

自信地发言就好像你是对的一样，仔细地听就好像你是错的一样。
Handy measure: the distance between your fingertips of your outstretched arms at shoulder level is your height.

方便的测量方法：你伸出的手臂指尖与肩同高的距离就是你的身高。
The consistency of your endeavors (exercise, companionship, work) is more important than the quantity. Nothing beats small things done every day, which is way more important than what you do occasionally.

你所做的努力（锻炼、陪伴、工作）的一致性比数量更重要。没有什么比每天做的小事更重要，这比你偶尔做的事要重要得多。
Making art is not selfish; it’s for the rest of us. If you don’t do your thing, you are cheating us.

艺术创作不是自私的。
Never ask a woman if she is pregnant. Let her tell you if she is.

不要问女人她有没有怀孕，让她告诉你。
Three things you need: The ability to not give up something till it works, the ability to give up something that does not work, and the trust in other people to help you distinguish between the two.

你需要三样东西。有能力不放弃某样东西直到它成功，有能力放弃不起作用的东西，以及信任其他人来帮助你区分这两者。
When public speaking, pause frequently. Pause before you say something in a new way, pause after you have said something you believe is important, and pause as a relief to let listeners absorb details.

公开演讲时，要经常停顿。在你以新的方式说某件事情之前暂停，在你说了你认为重要的事情之后暂停，并把暂停作为一种解脱，让听众吸收细节。
There is no such thing as being “on time.” You are either late or you are early. Your choice.

没有“准时”这一说法，要么晚到，要么早到。
Ask anyone you admire: Their lucky breaks happened on a detour from their main goal. So embrace detours. Life is not a straight line for anyone.

问问你钦佩的人。他们的幸运发生在远离主要目标的弯道上。所以要拥抱弯路。生活对任何人来说都不是一条直线。
The best way to get a correct answer on the internet is to post an obviously wrong answer and wait for someone to correct you.

在互联网上获得正确答案的最好方法是发布一个明显错误的答案，并等待有人来纠正你。
You’ll get 10x better results by elevating good behavior rather than punishing bad behavior, especially in children and animals.

通过提升好的行为而不是惩罚坏的行为，你会得到 10 倍的效果，特别是在儿童和动物身上。
Spend as much time crafting the subject line of an email as the message itself because the subject line is often the only thing people read.

花同样多的时间来设计电子邮件的主题行，因为主题行往往是人们阅读的唯一内容。
Don’t wait for the storm to pass; dance in the rain.

不要等待暴风雨过去，在雨中舞蹈。
When checking references for a job applicant, employers may be reluctant or prohibited from saying anything negative, so leave or send a message that says, “Get back to me if you highly recommend this applicant as super great.” If they don’t reply take that as a negative.

在检查求职者的推荐信时，雇主可能不愿意或禁止说任何负面的东西，所以留下或发送一个信息说：“如果你强烈推荐这个求职者是超级棒的，请给我回信。” 如果他们不回复，就当做是一种否定。
Use a password manager: Safer, easier, better.

使用密码管理器，更安全，更容易，更好。
Half the skill of being educated is learning what you can ignore.

受教育的一半技能是学习你可以忽视的东西。
The advantage of a ridiculously ambitious goal is that it sets the bar very high so even in failure it may be a success measured by the ordinary.

荒谬的雄心勃勃的目标的好处是，它设定了非常高的标准，所以即使是失败，也可能是以普通人的眼光来衡量的成功。
A great way to understand yourself is to seriously reflect on everything you find irritating in others.

了解自己的一个好方法是认真反思你觉得别人令人讨厌的一切。
Keep all your things visible in a hotel room, not in drawers, and all gathered into one spot. That way you’ll never leave anything behind. If you need to have something like a charger off to the side, place a couple of other large items next to it, because you are less likely to leave 3 items behind than just one.

在酒店房间里，把你所有的东西都放在看得见的地方，不要放在抽屉里，并且都集中到一个地方。这样你就不会落下任何东西。如果你需要把充电器之类的东西放在一边，就在它旁边放几件其他的大件物品，因为你留下三件物品的可能性比只留下一件更小。
Denying or deflecting a compliment is rude. Accept it with thanks, even if you believe it is not deserved.

拒绝或回避赞美是不礼貌的。即使你认为它是不值得的，也要感谢地接受它。
Always read the plaque next to the monument.

始终阅读纪念碑旁边的牌匾。
When you have some success, the feeling of being an imposter can be real. Who am I fooling? But when you create things that only you — with your unique talents and experience — can do, then you are absolutely not an imposter. You are the ordained. It is your duty to work on things that only you can do.

当您取得一些成功时，成为冒名顶替者的感觉可能是真实的。我在愚弄谁？但是当你创造出只有你——凭借你独特的才能和经验——才能做的事情时，那么你绝对不是冒名顶替者。你是受命的。做只有你能做的事情是你的责任。
What you do on your bad days matters more than what you do on your good days.

你在坏日子里做的事比在好日子里做的事更重要。
Make stuff that is good for people to have.

制作对人们有用的东西。
When you open paint, even a tiny bit, it will always find its way to your clothes no matter how careful you are. Dress accordingly.

当你打开油漆，哪怕是一丁点，它总会找到你的衣服，无论你多么小心。穿上相应的衣服。
To keep young kids behaving on a car road trip, have a bag of their favorite candy and throw a piece out the window each time they misbehave.

为了让年幼的孩子在汽车公路旅行中保持良好的行为习惯，可以准备一袋他们最喜欢的糖果，每次他们行为不端时就向窗外扔一块。
You cannot get smart people to work extremely hard just for money.

你不能让聪明人为了钱而拼命工作。
When you don’t know how much to pay someone for a particular task, ask them “what would be fair” and their answer usually is.

当你不知道该为某项任务付给某人多少钱时，问他们 “什么才是公平的”，他们的答案通常是。
90% of everything is crap. If you think you don’t like opera, romance novels, TikTok, country music, vegan food, NFTs, keep trying to see if you can find the 10% that is not crap.

90%的东西都是垃圾。如果你认为自己不喜欢歌剧、言情小说、TikTok、乡村音乐、素食、NFT，请继续尝试看看你是否能找到那 10% 不是垃圾的东西。
You will be judged on how well you treat those who can do nothing for you.

人们会根据你对待那些对你无能为力的人有多好来评判你。
We tend to overestimate what we can do in a day, and underestimate what we can achieve in a decade. Miraculous things can be accomplished if you give it ten years. A long game will compound small gains to overcome even big mistakes.

我们往往高估一天能做的事，却低估十年能做的事。
Thank a teacher who changed your life.

感谢那位曾经改变你一生的老师。
You cant reason someone out of a notion that they didn’t reason themselves into.

你不可能把一个人从一个他们自己不知道的概念中推理出来。（不懂）
Your best job will be one that you were unqualified for because it stretches you. In fact only apply to jobs you are unqualified for.

只有让你感到不舒服的工作才是适合你的，逃离自己的舒适圈。
Buy used books. They have the same words as the new ones. Also libraries.

买二手书，它们和新书一样，或者去图书馆。
You can be whatever you want, so be the person who ends meetings early.

你可以成为任何你想成为的人，所以做一个提早结束会议的人吧。
A wise man said, “Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates. At the first gate, ask yourself, “Is it true?” At the second gate ask, “Is it necessary?” At the third gate ask, “Is it kind?”

一位智者说：“在你说话之前，让你的话通过三道门，第一个门，问自己这是真的嘛，第二道门，问这是必须的嘛，第三道门，问他是好心的嘛”
Take the stairs.

多走楼梯。
What you actually pay for something is at least twice the listed price because of the energy, time, money needed to set it up, learn, maintain, repair, and dispose of at the end. Not all prices appear on labels. Actual costs are 2x listed prices.

你实际支付的东西至少是列出价格的两倍，因为需要花费精力、时间、金钱来设置、学习、维护、修理和最后的处置。不是所有的价格都出现在标签上。实际成本是上市价格的 2 倍。
When you arrive at your room in a hotel, locate the emergency exits. It only takes a minute.

当你到达酒店房间，找到紧急出口，只花几分钟。
The only productive way to answer “what should I do now?” is to first tackle the question of “who should I become?”

回答 “我现在应该做什么？“的唯一有效方式是首先解决 “我应该成为谁 “的问题。
Average returns sustained over an above-average period of time yield extraordinary results. Buy and hold.

在超过平均水平的时间内持续的平均回报会产生非凡的结果。买入并持有。
It’s thrilling to be extremely polite to rude strangers.

对无礼的陌生人礼貌，让人很激动。
It’s possible that a not-so smart person, who can communicate well, can do much better than a super smart person who can’t communicate well. That is good news because it is much easier to improve your communication skills than your intelligence.

一个不太聪明的人，如果能很好地沟通，有可能比一个不能很好地沟通的超级聪明人做得更好。这是一个好消息，因为提高沟通能力比提高智力要容易得多。
Getting cheated occasionally is the small price for trusting the best of everyone, because when you trust the best in others, they generally treat you best.

偶尔被骗是相信每个人最好的一面的小代价，因为当你相信别人最好的一面时，他们通常会对你最好。
Art is whatever you can get away with.

艺术就是你能逃脱的一切。
For the best results with your children, spend only half the money you think you should, but double the time with them.

为了在孩子身上取得最好的效果，只花你认为应该花的一半的钱，但要花双倍的时间与他们在一起。
Purchase the most recent tourist guidebook to your home town or region. You’ll learn a lot by playing the tourist once a year.

购买你家乡或地区的最新旅游指南。每年扮演一次游客，你会学到很多东西。
Dont wait in line to eat something famous. It is rarely worth the wait.

不值得排队去吃有名的东西。
To rapidly reveal the true character of a person you just met, move them onto an abysmally slow internet connection. Observe.

不明白。
Prescription for popular success: do something strange. Make a habit of your weird.

流行的成功处方：做一些奇怪的事情。让你的怪异成为一种习惯。
Be a pro. Back up your back up. Have at least one physical backup and one backup in the cloud. Have more than one of each. How much would you pay to retrieve all your data, photos, notes, if you lost them? Backups are cheap compared to regrets.

硬盘有价，数据无价，多备份。
Dont believe everything you think you believe.

不要相信你所相信的一切。
To signal an emergency, use the rule of three; 3 shouts, 3 horn blasts, or 3 whistles.

要发出紧急信号，请使用三个规则； 3 声喊叫、3 声喇叭声或 3 声口哨声。
At a restaurant do you order what you know is great, or do you try something new? Do you make what you know will sell or try something new? Do you keep dating new folks or try to commit to someone you already met? The optimal balance for exploring new things vs exploiting them once found is: 1/3. Spend 1/3 of your time on exploring and 2/3 time on deepening. It is harder to devote time to exploring as you age because it seems unproductive, but aim for 1/3.

在餐厅，您会点您认为很棒的食物，还是会尝试一些新的东西？你是做你知道会卖的东西还是尝试新的东西？您是继续与新朋友约会还是尝试与已经认识的人交往？探索新事物与利用新事物的最佳平衡是：1/3。将 1/3 的时间用于探索，将 2/3 的时间用于深化。随着年龄的增长，花时间去探索就更难了，因为它看起来没有成效，但目标是 1/3。
Actual great opportunities do not have “Great Opportunities” in the subject line.

天上不会掉馅饼，明面告诉你是好机会的地方可能是个陷阱。
When introduced to someone make eye contact and count to 4. You’ll both remember each other.

当介绍给某人时，进行眼神交流并数到 4。你们都会记住对方。
Take note if you find yourself wondering “Where is my good knife? Or, where is my good pen?” That means you have bad ones. Get rid of those.

如果您发现自己想知道“我的好刀在哪里？”，请注意。或者，我的好笔呢？”那意味着你有坏的。摆脱那些。
When you are stuck, explain your problem to others. Often simply laying out a problem will present a solution. Make “explaining the problem” part of your troubleshooting process.

当你被卡住时，向别人解释你的问题。通常情况下，简单地阐述一个问题就能提出一个解决方案。让 “解释问题 “成为你排除故障过程的一部分。
When buying a garden hose, an extension cord, or a ladder, get one substantially longer than you think you need. It’ll be the right size.

在购买花园水管、延长线或梯子时，要买比你认为需要的长很多的。这将是正确的尺寸。
Dont bother fighting the old; just build the new.

不要与旧的斗争，建立新的。
Your group can achieve great things way beyond your means simply by showing people that they are appreciated.

只需向人们展示他们受到赞赏，您的团队就可以取得超出您能力范围的伟大成就。
When someone tells you about the peak year of human history, the period of time when things were good before things went downhill, it will always be the years of when they were 10 years old — which is the peak of any human’s existence.

当有人告诉你人类历史的巅峰之年，在一切都好到走下坡路之前的那段时间，那永远是他们 10 岁的岁月——这是任何人类存在的巅峰时期。
You are as big as the things that make you angry.

你有多生气，你的事情就有多大。
When speaking to an audience it’s better to fix your gaze on a few people than to “spray” your gaze across the room. Your eyes telegraph to others whether you really believe what you are saying.

对听众讲话时，最好将目光集中在几个人身上，而不是将目光“散播”到整个房间。你的眼神告诉别人你是否真的相信你所说的话。
Habit is far more dependable than inspiration. Make progress by making habits. Dont focus on getting into shape. Focus on becoming the kind of person who never misses a workout.

习惯远比灵感更可靠。通过养成习惯来取得进步。不要把注意力放在塑身上。要专注于成为那种从不错过锻炼的人。
When negotiating, dont aim for a bigger piece of the pie; aim to create a bigger pie.

谈判时，不要为了分得更大的一杯羹，而是要创造一个更大的蛋糕。
If you repeated what you did today 365 more times will you be where you want to be next year?

如果你把今天所做的事情再重复 365 次，你明年会不会达到你想要的目标？
You see only 2% of another person, and they see only 2% of you. Attune yourselves to the hidden 98%.

你只看到另一个人的 2%，他们也只看到你的 2%。将自己调整到隐藏的 98%。
Your time and space are limited. Remove, give away, throw out things in your life that dont spark joy any longer in order to make room for those that do.

你的时间和空间是有限的。移除、放弃、扔掉你生活中不再能激发快乐的东西，以便为那些能激发快乐的东西腾出空间。
Our descendants will achieve things that will amaze us, yet a portion of what they will create could have been made with today’s materials and tools if we had had the imagination. Think bigger.

我们的后代将取得令我们惊讶的成就，然而，如果我们有想象力，他们将创造的一部分东西可以用今天的材料和工具来制造。想得更远。
For a great payoff be especially curious about the things you are not interested in.

为了获得巨大的回报，对你不感兴趣的事情要特别好奇。
Focus on directions rather than destinations. Who knows their destiny? But maintain the right direction and you’ll arrive at where you want to go.

专注于方向而不是目的地。谁知道自己的命运？但保持正确的方向，你就会到达你想去的地方。
Every breakthrough is at first laughable and ridiculous. In fact if it did not start out laughable and ridiculous, it is not a breakthrough.

每一个突破起初都是可笑和可笑的。事实上，如果它没有开始可笑和荒谬，它就不是突破。
If you loan someone $20 and you never see them again because they are avoiding paying you back, that makes it worth $20.

如果你借给某人 20 美元，而你再也见不到他们，因为他们不还钱，那么这 20 美元就值了。
Copying others is a good way to start. Copying yourself is a disappointing way to end.

模仿别人是一个很好的开始。模仿自己是一种令人失望的结束方式。
The best time to negotiate your salary for a new job is the moment AFTER they say they want you, and not before. Then it becomes a game of chicken for each side to name an amount first, but it is to your advantage to get them to give a number before you do.

谈判新工作薪水的最佳时机是在他们说想要你之后，而不是之前。让他们在你之前给出一个数字对你是有利的。
Rather than steering your life to avoid surprises, aim directly for them.

与其引导你的生活避免意外，不如直接瞄准它们。（stop doing something）
Dont purchase extra insurance if you are renting a car with a credit card.

如果你是用信用卡租车，不要购买额外的保险。
If your opinions on one subject can be predicted from your opinions on another, you may be in the grip of an ideology. When you truly think for yourself your conclusions will not be predictable.

如果你对一个主题的看法可以从你对另一个主题的看法中预测出来，那么你可能被一种意识形态所控制。当您真正独立思考时，您的结论将无法预测。
Aim to die broke. Give to your beneficiaries before you die; it’s more fun and useful. Spend it all. Your last check should go to the funeral home and it should bounce.

以死后破产为目标。在你死前捐给你的受益人；这更有趣，更有用。花光所有的钱。你的最后一张支票应该交给殡仪馆，而且应该跳票。
The chief prevention against getting old is to remain astonished.

防止变老的主要方法是保持惊讶。

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Kevin Kelly 的 103 条建议